I literally gave birth today. Like, less than half a day ago. I haven’t slept, I’m still sore, and I’m trying to process that I just brought a human into the world.Somehow, my mom decided it was her job to notify the entire family. I’ve been getting random congratulations texts from people I haven’t spoken to in years. That alone annoyed me, but then it got worse.
An aunt I don’t get along with — and who I’m not even connected to on Facebook — decided to announce my baby’s birth online. She posted an actual photo of my newborn and wrote a whole post about his arrival. I hadn’t told anyone. I hadn’t shared pictures. I hadn’t even had the chance to announce my own child.
The post was up for hours before I noticed. It’s past 1 a.m. now, so she won’t even see my message asking her to remove it until morning. Meanwhile, she tagged me, which means everyone I know has probably already seen it.
What makes me even angrier is who she associates with. She’s into heavy drug use and has people in her circle that I absolutely do not want anywhere near my child — even digitally. I’m furious, exhausted, and honestly heartbroken. And yes, I blame my mom for oversharing in the first place.
My mom keeps brushing it off, saying people were “just excited” and that it’s not a big deal. I don’t care. This was my moment. My baby. My choice.Am I the asshole for being this upset?
Update: As of this morning, the post is finally gone. I had to get my cousin to step in and tear her mom a new one before she listened. I’m still not okay with the fact that a photo of my newborn was online without my consent, even briefly. I don’t speak to this aunt at all, so I genuinely don’t understand why she thought any of this was appropriate.